When you’ve reached desperation 

Parents don’t contact me when they are just a little bit tired. They contact me when they feel completely broken and have nothing left. These were not first-time parents either. Both mum and dad had children from their first marriages and neither had bad sleepers previously. This sleep deprivation came as a complete shock to both of them. Luckily Asker turned from terrible to terrific after my sleep training.

Baby sleep

Choosing the right sleep training method

Making sure you choose the right sleep training method for the developmental age is crucial. Asher was 9 months and so had recently gone through the tricky 6-8 month wonder week and was struggling with separation anxiety. Sleep school had chosen a method similar to controlled crying, a checking method which would have made him feel insecure and abandoned. Boys struggle more with sleep training. Knowing this I decided Magic Presence, also known as a gradual withdrawal method and based on attachment psychology was the best method to use to help Asher.

Object permanence and separation anxiety

Sleep school had not helped Asher

Asher just turned 6 months when we asked Karen for help and it’s one of the best decisions we made as prior to that we had 4-night stay in one of Sydney’s sleep schools and Asher came out of it worse than he went in… he was petrified of his cot… If I could describe Asher’s sleep in 1 word prior to Karen coming into our life it was – terrible.

terrible baby sleep

His sleep was terrible

He was waking up every couple of hours throughout the night. I was lucky to get a 3h  block of sleep. Every night he also had a ‘party’ as he wasn’t sleeping for 2h blocks at a time which meant I wasn’t sleeping either and it was taking it’s tall on me.
With Karen’s help, I realised that crying is not as bad as it sounds. As it’s not only teaching Asher to self-settle but to control his emotions and to express himself. it will also help him to have control over his feelings when he is older.

Asher now sleeps through the night and he is a happy chappy and so are his parents as they finally can have some grown-up time and they no longer need to rock their baby to sleep every couple of hours.

Kind regards Lucy

Baby boys and sleep problems

Separation Anxiety and its’ effects on baby sleep