A new Baby and Toddler Tantrums Have Gone Through The Roof!

A new Baby and Toddler Tantrums Have Gone Through The Roof!

This is a Typical Toddler Behaviour Case Study

Hi Karen, we did a phone consultation a few months back regarding my 3-year-old boy Jake and managing toddler behaviour. At the time the tantrums really weren’t that bad but we wanted to nip it in the bud before they got worse.

All has been going well until recently. We moved house in early May and had a baby girl 2 weeks ago. He took to the move fine but this week his toddler behaviour and tantrums have gotten worse. So I’m not sure if it’s linked to the new baby.

At the moment he flips from happy to whinging in a matter of seconds. He seems to kick off for no reason. He’s in daycare 5 days a week so the 4 of us are only really together a lot on the weekends.

Toddler Behaviour

An example of his toddler behaviour: yesterday we went for a walk down to Maroubra beach. He brought his bike then 2 mins in didn’t want it then wanted it, didn’t want his helmet on, wanted it on. When he cries he doesn’t even make any sense in what he’s saying – it’s more baby talk.

Then we went for lunch, he got ice cream but then kicked off because it wasn’t in a tub, then when he got the tub he started again because he couldn’t scoop some out. It’s one thing after the other at the moment. He never used to be like this. He’s also started whinging if there’s stuff on his fingers, e.g. melted ice cream.

Bossy and Demanding

He’s also very bossy and demanding. He gets jealous when we have visitors over and when having a conversation with them he’ll start demanding our attention.

We also went out for a short stroll yesterday evening and he kicked off because of the wind. He’s sensitive to the wind and really loud noises (like a drill).

Just wondering if you could give us some tips/pointers to manage this phase. I’m assuming it’s a phase and it’s typical of a 3-year-old?

New Baby On The Scene

Any change in a strong-willed child’s world is going to flick their switch and escalate behaviours. Children with strong temperaments do not like change at all. They are likely to act out, tantrum and refuse to do as you asked. This is when their defiant little streak comes to the fore. You will see behaviours you have never laid eyes on previously.

Your well-behaved toddler has suddenly turned into a fire breathing dragon and you probably never saw any of this coming. Previously they were the centre of your world, they had no competition at all. Now you’ve brought a newer better model home and they’ve worked out that it’s here to stay! Eeek. If you asked any self-respecting toddler if they wanted a sibling I’m sure you’d get a resounding NO!! Especially if they knew what it involved…

Escalation of Toddler Behaviour

When children feel stressed and threatened they will escalate behaviour to get your attention in an attempt to get back to where they were. Change feels uncomfortable and the strong-willed child struggles with change. They may walk around the baby who is laid playing on his mat on the floor looking at you out of the corner of their eye pretending to nearly stand on the baby.

They are testing you and what you are going to do about it. Remember a toddlers job is to test the boundary. Whereas your job is to pull the boundary back to where it should be. This push-me pull-me resistance is a normal part of the toddler years and it is them testing your boundary. Remember boundaries are creating security and they need to see a firm boundary.

Working Out His New World

Your toddler has gone from being the focus of your entire world to suddenly being on the outer. Your attention is strongly focussed as it should be on the new baby. And he is acutely aware of this. To try and get your focus back on him he tries to grab your attention the best way he knows how. By doing naughty and cheeky things he knows will raise a reaction from you.

The Expectation of Good Behaviour

There is an unsaid expectation from you the parent that all behaviour should be positive or good. Children naturally want to behave well. However good or positive behaviour hardly features on her radar because we see it as expected.

Naughty or negative behaviours alert our alarm bells and the flashing amber and red lights in our brain are triggered to notify us. And the toddler knows this. Suddenly they are the focus of our full attention again. The more we pay attention to bad or naughty behaviour the more it will appear. So how do we get rid of this and turn this around?

Managing The Toddler Behaviour

Here are my top strategies to help you

  • Use labelled praise to increase the likelihood of more positive behaviours e.g. well done Jack for putting your toys away, high-5. The emphasis needs to be in this area.
  • Use the child’s game as the glue to stick it all together and increase the chances of success
  • Consequences for naughty or dangerous behaviour – Time Out or Logical Consequences for over 2.5-3 years
  • Bring them in close, examples of this are read a book to them whilst feeding the baby
  • Get them involved in helping you prepare meals, use a learning tower, housework, washing and putting the washing out, helping change the baby etc.
  • Once they feel helpful and valued things will change in a positive direction, it will take approx. 7-10 days to turn things around.
  • Read books about emotions to help him navigate these new feelings e.g. The Brothers Quibble by Aaron Blabey, My Book of Feelings by Trace Moroney

Teaching Your Toddler About Empathy

Empty praise vs. labelled praise and effects on resilience in kids

The child’s game (part 2) relationship building with your child

Defiance And The Toddler

https://nurtureparenting.com.au/toddlers-and-the-need-for-teaching-them-empathy/
Has Your Baby Learned To Stand In The Cot & Is No Longer Sleeping?

Has Your Baby Learned To Stand In The Cot & Is No Longer Sleeping?

Has your baby has learned to stand and no longer sleeping?

Has your baby has learned to stand & no longer sleeping?

Has your baby has learned to stand and no longer sleeping? I got the following help message from a mum …🗣️ Hi Karen, My little boy Hunter is now nine and a half months old.In the last two weeks he has learned to crawl and pull himself up to stand. His favorite pastime at the moment is to stand in the cot when he should be napping. I've been waiting a few minutes, then going in and laying him back down. Saying, "Sleep time" and leaving.I usually have to do this multiple times. Sometimes he sits after standing for a while, and from what I can see in the monitor, it looks like he can't figure out how to lie down again. So I go in and lay him back down. Say, "Sleep time" and leave again.He doesn't always cry out and if he does it's very brief and he will sometimes be happily playing even though he's due for a nap and showing tired signs. I'm worried he sees me going in as a game. Will he eventually work it out on his own? …..MY RESPONSE …No, he won't work it out on his own. Yes, he does think it's a game.He needs to learn how to do this. You're showing him, but he's not learning.That sounds like you've got a strong personality here with Hunter. If you lie him down 40 times …1. He's not learning how to do this 2. You're really ticking him offHe's going to be not happy about this. And all that keeps happening is the Jack in the box. He jumps back up again and again and again. It's a game.You're making him angry. So what you need to do instead is goin the room and lie on the floor on day one, and pretend to be asleep.Get a little pillow. By day 2 you need to be on the chair and doing my Magic Presence™ technique. If you want to know how to do this it's in the online program.➡️ https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-program/It looks at how you manage this standing up and sitting down behaviour. But the worst thing you can do is just is to keep on laying him down and to leave it.Boys struggle with stress. So the in and out method wouldn't work.You need to be in there to give him the message that he needs to go to sleep. And how do you give them the message?You show that you're asleep yourself. But if you lie on the floor forever you've moved in, so you need to move on with the process. If you want to know more about it it's in the online program. But that's what you need to do.➡️ https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-program/You get very very angry children and to me, it just feels a bit a little bit disrespectful.You get very very angry children and to me, it just feels a bit little bit disrespectful.We're forcing him to do something that he's not quite ready to do. Sleep and laying down the cot, it has to come of their own volition, when they are ready. You know it's like anything in life. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. …..Learn more about the Magic Presence™ technique mentioned in this video when you join my Nurture Sleep Program.Sleep and laying down the cot, it has to come of their own volition when they are ready. You know it's like anything in life. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. You will take your child from sleepless to slumber when you join the program at this link ..You'll access my 3 decades of experience as a registered midwife and child and family health nurse.You will take your child from sleepless to slumber when you join the program.➡️ https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-program🍌 FOODS that promote baby and toddler sleep⏰ ROUTINE: easy, flexible, sleep-ready💡 ENVIRONMENT: getting it right👶🏽 DEVELOPMENT: changes, how these affect sleep😴 SLEEP METHODS: secret tips that will change your lifeIt will stop the guesswork and give you …✅ A tried and tested approach (20 years of helping families with baby & toddler sleep)✅ Evidence-based✅ Gentle baby and toddler sleep methods✅ Holistic assessment✅ Nurture & Nourish nutrition program – all recipes have sleep-inducing ingredients and a perfect balance for a good nights sleep✅ Access to a closed Facebook group for one on one support from Karen and 90+ timecoded Facebook Live videos✅ Prevention for under 4 months so no need to do sleep training ever✅ And all at a low $97 for a very limited timeClick here to join …➡️ https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-programWant to know what's involved in my sleep training methods? Read this ..➡️ https://nurtureparenting.com.au/baby-sleep-training-gentle-methods/Watch a sleep program review🎥 https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=652793831916409Click here to join 👇➡️ https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-program/…..You'll also want to get your 3 sample chapters from my ebook – "Baby Massage: The Magic of Touch".Go to this link and tell me where to send them👉 https://i8cs6tc8.pages.infusionsoft.net…..#nurtureparenting #getbettersleep #babysleep #sleep #baby #sleeptraining #sleepprogram #onlinesleepprogram

Posted by Nurture Parenting on Monday, February 10, 2020

I got the following help message from a mum …

Hi Karen, My little boy Hunter is now nine and a half months old.

In the last two weeks he has learned to crawl and pull himself up to stand. His favorite pastime at the moment is to stand in the cot when he should be napping. I’ve been waiting a few minutes, then going in and laying him back down. Saying, “Sleep time” and leaving.

I usually have to do this multiple times. Sometimes he sits after standing for a while, and from what

I can see in the monitor, it looks like he can’t figure out how to lie down again. So I go in and lay him back down. Say, “Sleep time” and leave again.

He doesn’t always cry out and if he does it’s very brief and he will sometimes be happily playing even though he’s due for a nap and showing tired signs.

I’m worried he sees me going in as a game.Will he eventually work it out on his own?

MY RESPONSE …

No, he won’t work it out on his own. Yes, he does think it’s a game. He needs to learn how to do this. You’re showing him, but he’s not learning. That sounds like you’ve got a strong personality here with Hunter. If you lie him down 40 times …

  1. He’s not learning how to do this
  2. You’re really ticking him off

He’s going to be not happy about this. And all that keeps happening is the Jack in the box. He jumps back up again and again and again. It’s a game.

You’re making him angry. So what you need to do instead is go in the room and lie on the floor on day one, and pretend to be asleep. Get a little pillow.

By day 2 you need to be on the chair and doing my Magic Presence™ technique. If you want to know how to do this it’s in the online program.

It looks at how you manage this standing up and sitting down behaviour. But the worst thing you can do is just is to keep on laying him down and to leave it.

Boys struggle with stress. So the in and out method wouldn’t work. You need to be in there to give him the message that he needs to go to sleep. And how do you give them the message? You show that you’re asleep yourself.

But if you lie on the floor forever you’ve moved in, so you need to move on with the process. If you want to know more about it it’s in the online program. But that’s what you need to do.

You get very very angry children and to me, it just feels a bit a little bit disrespectful. We’re forcing him to do something that he’s not quite ready to do.

Sleep and laying down the cot, it has to come of their own volition, when they are ready. You know it’s like anything in life. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

Learn more about the Magic Presence™ technique mentioned in this video when you join my Nurture Sleep Program.

You will take your child from sleepless to slumber when you join the program.

You’ll access my 3 decades of experience as a registered midwife and child and family health nurse. You will take your child from sleepless to slumber when you join the program.  https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-program

FOODS that promote baby and toddler sleep

ROUTINE: easy, flexible, sleep-ready

ENVIRONMENT: getting it right

DEVELOPMENT: changes, how these affect sleep

SLEEP METHODS: secret tips that will change your life It will stop the guesswork and give you …

A tried and tested approach (20 years of helping families with baby & toddler sleep)

Evidence-based Gentle baby and toddler sleep methods

Holistic assessment

Nurture & Nourish nutrition program – all recipes have sleep-inducing ingredients and a perfect balance for a good nights sleep

Access to a closed Facebook group for one on one support from Karen and 90+ timecoded Facebook Live videos

Prevention for under 4 months so no need to do sleep training ever And all at a low $97 for a very limited time

Click here to join … https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-program

Want to know what’s involved in my sleep training methods? Read this .. https://nurtureparenting.com.au/baby-sleep-training-gentle-methods/

Watch a sleep program review: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=652793831916409

Click here to join:  https://nurtureparenting.com.au/nurture-sleep-program/

My Go-To Parenting Books Part Two

My Go-To Parenting Books Part Two

In part two of this blog, I’m giving you my go-to toddler & child behaviour parenting books. I’m giving you a little run down on each one and their main messages. This is not a definitive list and there are many many more books that I have read and own in my vast collection. This list is the most helpful list from my point of view. The boring as bat$3it books are not on this list and believe me there are way too many to list in this category! In the previous blog I covered 6 books on parenting, now it’s time for the final 7 in my goto list.

  1. No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury
  2. Co-operative & Connected by Aletha Solter
  3. Jo Frosts Toddler Rules by Jo Frost
  4. The No-Cry Discipline Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
  5. Heart to Heart Parenting by Robin Grille
  6. Children Are People Too by Dr Louise Porter
  7. Oneness & Separateness by Louise Kaplan

No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury

This book is from a well respected parenting source who passes on the teachings of Magda Gerber and RIE in her popular books, podcasts and social media posts. She enourages parents to use an empathic approach and attunement to help the child resolve anger and a potential stand off. Once you hit a stand-off you are into a lose-lose. She normalises childrens behaviour and the reasons why behind a behaviour outburst. 

Janet helps parents model expected behaviours using a gentle guidance approach. She gives you practical and tried and tested strategies and encourages you to keep calm and avoid anger. This approach fosters a healthy will and leaves the spirit in the spirited child.

Honesty is a core value at the heart of her approach. There is no quick-fix approach and truthful and respectful parenting can help both the parent and the child. She says on one hand that she doesn’t use time-out or shame based parenting but on the other hand says its OK to take your child to their room to work out their emotions. And to stay with them. Preferring instead to use logical consequences more than time-out. 

Co-Operative & Connected by Aletha Solter

Aletha is a world reknowned psychologist who has worked with the eminent Piaget as well as written many books on kind and respectful ways of parenting. What I love about Aletha’s approach is the science and psychology behind her strategies. Crying and tantrums are essential for healthy well balanced children and normal emotions long term. We must allow emotion to flow and not stop it, it’s cathartic and stress reducing for the child. 

Without connection you won’t have co-operation. Connection is everything. This book looks at strategies for getting your little person actually listening to you and co-operating. Aletha is a fan of approaches that are not based in the reward and punishment style of behavioural psychology. This is definately a must read.

Jo Frosts Toddler Rules by Jo Frost

Supernanny has graced our screens for many years now. Her no-nonsense and practical style has won a lot of admiring fans. This book is clear and well designed and a really easy to follow guide. If you’re looking for clear strategies that work then this is your book. The only parts are object to are the naughty chair – it labels the child as naughty rather than the behaviour. It is far better to use the words time-out or chill-out zone as it takes the label away from the child. It is so important to separate the childs behaviour from the child. I’m also not a fan of making the child apologise. What if it is a false apology? And by making them apologise are we reinforcing the negative behaviour?

The No-Cry Discipline Solution by Elizabeth Pantley

This book moves away from a firm control approach to parenting towards an empathetic model of the normal ups and downs of childhood. There are workable strategies to help with everyday speedhumps and emotional outbursts of a normal toddler or child. She gives you options for minor misdemeanours and working through problems as well as discipline for major outbursts and how to do time-out. There are what to do’s and what not to do for each behaviour as well as a general explanation.

Pantley has zero tolerance for dangerous outbursts and offers control back to a frazzled parent. I actually think this book is a much better book than her sleep book. However the promise of a no-cry discipline solution? This leaves me cold and is the opposite of what should be happening. Emotions need to flow and come out. Repressing crying is so toxic and I really dislike the title because of this.   

Heart to Heart Parenting by Robin Grille

A well respected Sydney based Psychologist Robin looks at parenting from a growth perspective of the parent. This book starts with pregnancy and how all the ways culture impacts on parenting shape the outcomes in our children. He encourages you to question the status quo and seach for a better world. This is less of a practical skills book and more of a whole life and the universe approach to being a parent.

He asks ‘what can we do when we make the painful discovery that something we have done has caused our child to hurt? And how can we deal with the guilt that comes up?…Parenting is an ever-evolving work in progress. A quick glance at the evolution of parenting through the ages does wonders to liquidate our sense of guilt, and replace it with humility and excitement for learning and growing as parents.’.

Parenting nowadays has shifted to an empathetic and emotion based model rather than the practical needs based parenting of yesteryear. 

Children Are People Too by Dr Louise Porter

Dr Louise Porter is a parent and child psychologist in Australia and lectures at Flinders University. Promoting a guidance approach and using communication rather than a typical rewards based behavioural stance it helps teach children self-regulation of emotions and ultimately self-control. With an emphasis on prevention it looks at the normal behavioural challenges children develop and the best ways of managing these. It also has a section on atypical behaviours and autism spectrum, OCD and ADHD.

The old ways of reward and punishment have no place in a modern society and certainly offer no benefit to the child. Moving away from a heavily controlling fear-based focus on parenting to a more child-centric way with an emphasis on helping a child solve their own issues. Reward charts and pocket money bribes should be a thing of the past she espouses. She belives in guidelines rather than rules, rights of others and the responsibility of the parent. And if we are to expect children to think and act responsibly we need to give them some responsibility to help them practice on. And their responsibilities need to grow with their increasing capabilities. This is a good book to help you with the older child and specifically 3-8 years age group.

Oneness & Separateness by Louise Kaplan

Louise is a professor of Psychology and a researcher in the field of attachment, her work is world reknowned and thought leading. I first came across her teachings whilst studying for my Psychology degree and her work has certainly helped and informed my practice in helping parents understand their babies and children. In this book Louise looks at developmental changes through the eyes of the baby and child. She takes you on a journey on what it means to be a separate individual and how that separation process plays out on a daily basis. It helps a parent understand why their baby has all these intense primal emotions and why they need help and support to naviagte these big developmental changes. I never ever tire of reading this book and each time I go back to it I glean and learn something new. Amazing.

And that is my final synopsis of books all about parenting and how to handle as well as understand these normal developmental outbursts. There are strategies, different approaches and practical applications but above all there is a gentle, kind and more empathic approach to parenting our children emerging. And this warms my heart and soul and gives me hope for humanity. We are raising our children in such a way that they are capable of solving the very big issues our world is currently facing.

 

My Go To Parenting Books to Help With Child Behaviour

My Go To Parenting Books to Help With Child Behaviour

In this blog, I’m giving you my go-to toddler & child behaviour parenting books. I’m going to give you a little run down on each one and it’s main messages. This is not a definitive list and there are many many more books that I have read and own in my vast collection. This list is the most helpful list from my point of view. The boring as bat$3it books are not on this list and believe me there are way too many to list in this category!

  1. Nurture Shock by Po Bronson & Ashley Merriman
  2. The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson
  3. The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabery
  4. There’s No Such Thing As Bad Weather by Linda Akeson McGurk
  5. French Children Don’t Throw Food by Pamela Druckerman
  6. No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury
  7. Co-operative & Connected by Aletha Solter
  8. Jo Frosts Toddler Rules by Jo Frost
  9. The No-Cry Discipline Solution by Elizabeth Pantley
  10. Children Are People Too by Dr Louise Porter
  11. Heart to Heart Parenting by Robin Grille
  12. Toddler Taming by Christopher Green

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Toddler Taming by Christopher Green

The very first book I ever read on parenting and helping manage toddler and child behaviour was Christopher Green’s Toddler Taming. Whilst it may not have stood the test of time from a PC point of view and I don’t share his recommendations of smacking children. It does give you much-needed humour and a lot of his strategies do work. Christopher Green is a respected Australian paediatrician who until recently worked at Westmead. He talks about his trials and tribulations as a parent and how he approached typical parent pain points such as potty training. It is a very real book rather than a boring as cardboard academic book, of which there are way too many.

Next, I’m jumping to the very top of my list of top 10 parenting books. My background in Psychology (I have a psychology degree and in the UK we used Psychological techniques to help children with both sleep and behaviour). So a lot of my interest and reading is deeply rooted in science and fact and especially psychology.

Nurture Shock by Po Bronson & Ashley Merriman

The researchers who wrote this book are both psychologists and this book is based on scientific fact and things we as parents are getting very wrong. The very first chapter, The Inverse Power of Praise examines the effect of empty praise e.g. clever boy, good girl and why labelled praise can mean your child achieves a third better in life. Addictive reading. The other chapters cover what the lost hour of sleep is doing to our children, why parents don’t talk about race, why kids lie, Why school tests (NAPLAN for example) are poor predictors of academic success, The sibling effect, The Science of Teen Rebellion, Can Self-Control Be Taught? What does plays well with others really mean? And language skills, can you get your child to start talking earlier with flashcards and other gimmicks?

Another section I found fascinating was the one on teaching self-control and impulsivity. There are some great ideas at the end of this chapter for applications in everyday parenting life. Something you need to read especially if you have a child with a high IQ.

Once you’ve read this book it will open your eyes to some of the mistruths we are being fed.

The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson

I’m currently reading this on my Kindle at the mo. Because I’ve studied Psychology there are no big surprises in this book for me. However, I think it’s a must-read for any parent. It explains why toddlers and children struggle with logic and other concepts we take for granted. Everything under 3 years is about emotion. Are you a parent who communicates with a logical left brain or are you able to only use the emotional right brain? Once you realise this it will help you communicate differently with your little one and allow for their developing brain. After all, the brain does not reach maturity until the early ’20s and there are some older adults who struggle with logic in their older years!

The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabery

I first discovered Shefali 3-4 years ago whilst blogging and daytime TV was on in the background. I remember David and Sonia saying Oprah thinks this lady is the best thing since sliced bread in the world of parenting and once they mentioned the word attunement they had me hooked. She’s a psychologist and mum of a teenage girl. Her books and work are deep, meaningful and highly spiritual. You will either love her as I do or it will not be your thing. But, for one thing she will most certainly get you thinking.

There’s No Such Thing As Bad Weather by Linda Akeson McGurk

This is the Swedish book of parenting and concentrates on outdoor play and the benefits this has on brain development. It’s a highly optimistic upbeat book and will give you hope for the future and the world you are raising your child in. Another advantage of reading this book is the humour that comes with it. Parenting without humour is like chewing 2-month-old stale dry bread. Basically don’t do it!! It will have you going out come rain, hail or shine. As Linda says ‘there is no such thing as bad clothes’. This is basically my childhood in a nutshell. It also comes with solid evidence-based scientific reasons for doing outdoors play. It will bring joy back to your parenting with a plethora of commonsense and practical ideas. I LOVED this book.

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French Children Don’t Throw Food by Pamela Druckerman

I first read this book about 7 years ago and I wanted to hate it but it’s actually my favourite book on parenting. The main message in this book is about The Pause, wait and see, don’t jump in, can your child do whatever the behaviour is by themselves? Most of the time yes they can and we jump in waaaaay too quickly. Those of you who know me and my sleep training methods very well will recognise the pause as The 3-Minute Magic Rule! A lot of dads love this book, it’s full of common-sense, highly logical and practical and best of all it works. And it’s a really easy and good read. Tick, tick, tick from me.

I’m finishing up today’s blog right here. The remaining 5 books I will blog about next. I hope you enjoyed this little saunter through my library and I hope it helped some of you decide what is worth more than a cursory glance at.

Reiki Energy Healing with Karen

Reiki Energy Healing with Karen

This is a little bit different from one of my usual parenting blogs but I actually think it’s one of THE MOST IMPORTANT. Today I’m talking self-care and why as a parent self-care is a MUST. Unless you practice self-care how can you give to your children?

Just over 12 months ago I started on my energy healing and reiki journey completing the holistic approach to wellness for parents. In modern-day Australia, we are living without the traditional village. Parents have little or no outside support, they are exhausted and are often running on empty. In order to give, you, as the parent need to feel well-rested and healthy.

The word Reiki is made of two Japanese words – Rei which means “God’s Wisdom or the Higher Power” and Ki which is “life force energy”. So Reiki is actually “spiritually guided life force energy.”

Reiki is Japanese in origin and is passed down from teacher to student. Examining your energy centres otherwise known as chakras it identifies blockages that need re-aligning. You have 7 chakras in total, including, root (red), sacral (orange), solar plexus (yellow), heart (green or pink), throat (blue), third eye (indigo) and crown (purple).

While Reiki is spiritual in nature, it is not a religion. It has no dogma, and there is nothing you must believe in order to learn and use Reiki. In fact, Reiki is not dependent on belief at all and will work whether you believe in it or not.

Because Reiki comes from God, many people find that using Reiki puts them more in touch with the experience of their religion rather than having only an intellectual concept of it.

Reiki can be a touch or no-touch technique, re-aligning your chakra’s or energy centres so they are positively charged and are flowing correctly. Illness or dis-ease is thought to result from a blocked chakra or one out of alignment.

https://www.reiki.org/faq/whatisreiki.html

In my practice, I use a pendulum to diagnose a blocked chakra. I then use a no-touch technique to re-align your chakra’s by placing my hands above the chakra centres of your body. Using the beautiful sound of Tibetan singing bowls, charging and activating your chakra’s and other sound equipment including Koshi chimes and a crystal pyramid.

My reiki practice is in the Usui tradition and I was taught with Athina Bailey via the Temple in Surry Hills and Studio Blueprint.

Included in the energy healing session is a Point of Light Crystal Energy Healing. This is a healing meditation using crystals, meditation aromatherapy essential oils and visualisation techniques. My Point of Light teacher is Kassandra Scardino from The Temple in Surry Hills, now of Studio Blueprint.

This is a new service I’m adding to my baby and toddler sleep consultancy and one I’m really excited to offer to you. If you’re feeling depleted, stressed, anxious or depressed it may be just the thing to help you function and thrive in your parenting. In future blogs I’m delving into sound as a healing therapy and the benefit of sound baths.

10 reasons sleep is important for babies

10 reasons sleep is important for babies

Getting enough sleep for mums and babies is my passion and I totally understand the desperation you feel when sleep is not going well. These 10 reasons are why baby and toddler sleep has me slightly obsessed.

Parents tell me, ‘My child is super alert, Karen!’ and ‘My child is very sensitive and they just don’t like to sleep much’. These are two of the many common threads of babies who fight their sleep. For these highly alert, intelligent and anxious children, their intelligence, health and wellbeing, and overall happiness depend on them getting enough sleep. In fact, they need more sleep than most to cope with their day. It’s the opposite to which their parents believe is the truth.

sleep training courageHow much sleep is enough?

After much debate, this is how much sleep the AAP decided babies and children need. However, there are variations at both ends of this spectrum.

  • 4 to 12 months: 12 to 16 hours per 24 hours (including naps)
  • 1 to 2 years: 11 to 14 hours per 24 hours (including naps)
  • 3 to 5 years: 10 to 13 hours per 24 hours (including naps)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/going-beyond-intelligence/201808/sleep-essential-intelligence-health-and-happiness

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Why is sleep important?

  1. Babies move on developmentally quicker when well rested and they have a lot more energy
  2. They feed better and gain weight appropriately – sleep helps a normal weight gain by influencing the appetite hormone and insulin levels
  3. It improves mood, a rested baby is a happier baby
  4. Their immune system is stronger making them less susceptible to colds and illness
  5. It increases learning at a much deeper level, making sense of the day’s events and creating new connections in the brain
  6. Emotional and physical self-regulation. Babies who sleep well and are able to self-soothe manage their emotions better and are less stressed and anxious
  7. It clears out the nasty toxins which build up in the brain
  8. It improves impulse control and judgement – Insufficient sleep leads to distracted behaviour, impulsivity, and reduced ability to concentrate, sometimes to the point of looking like they have symptoms of ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). I’ve met many babies and children who were given this diagnosis who were in fact just tired.
  9. Behaviour – lack of sleep leads to poor behaviour and attention seeking behaviour. 
  10. Physical growth and repair. The pituitary gland releases growth hormone during sleep, which the body requires for growth, fat breakdown, and repair.

why sleep is important for babies

 

 

Separation anxiety and the toddler who clings to you like a koala

The impulsive toddler and crossing the road

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