Developmental stages & baby sleep

Developmental stages & baby sleep

Today’s blog is looking at things we need to know about baby development and baby sleep. Moving babies on to the next stage cause mums a lot of angst. You’ve just got your little cutie sleeping really well then comes along those pesky developmental leaps. They start rolling over, moving around the cot and getting stuck and screaming out for you to help them.

I also see many babies being swaddled for way too long, often swaddled until 7/8 months old creating a big issue with sleep. This interferes with their ability to self-soothe and rollover. If your baby can’t put their bare hands in their mouth and roll over its very tricky to achieve a sleep through. Research has found a link between lack of mouthing and sensory processing issues. This reflex and developmental skill for mouthing i.e. placing their hands in their mouth take place around 12 weeks.

These are really common scenarios I get asked about:

My 4.5-month-old just learnt how to roll today! Yay! Only she can’t roll herself back and for her last two periods of sleep she could not settle herself as she’s never slept on her tummy before and essentially “got stuck”.

It took half an hour for us to settle her – eventually on her back like she’s used to. But how do we teach her that she can sleep on her tummy and not only use it for cobra pose??

Worried about her getting to bed tonight 😳 Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance!

Best thing I can tell you is that it will pass. In future try settling her on their tummy to teach her that tummy sleeping is normal and what she should be doing. Once they can roll they are not a SIDS risk. This stage is a pretty short-lived thing so just keep rolling him to his back to sleep and after some nights she will be able to just roll both ways and it will be fine.

Sit by the cot, place your hand briefly on her back to teach her this is what you want her to do. Allow her to cry and feel frustrated. You don’t need to calm her, the baby’s job is to calm themselves. Your job is to be present and support this process.

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But you don’t want to create “learned helplessness” where they need you to roll them – temporarily it’s OK if it’s just a learning curve but be careful. And lots and lots of rolling practice in the day! Use toys to teach him to roll front to back. And know that it will pass!

The next stage is 6-9 months and they get stuck sitting up 🙈😂 just know it will pass and help him/her work through it and settle him down, lots of teaching in the day etc. good luck!! Oh, and just in case it helps…a few bad nights of them learning these new things doesn’t undo your sleep work. They are just leaping their brains! It does go back 🙂

Then you have the 6-8 month leap and separation anxiety hits the big time.

This is one mums story – For those who have not long gone through 8-month leap and separation awareness. My poor little pet is now crying when I put her in bed AND catnapping, she also woke at 4.30 am which is unusual. I tried magic presence this afternoon. After a 30 min nap. 20 minutes of crying 😭 (I had earphones in to take the edge off) how long did this last for you?
I’d love your tips and any advice you can offer about how to deal with the waking?

  • My son has been through this stage a few time’s (6, 8 and 11 months) he turns 1 tomorrow. If she responded well to your initial sleep training, it won’t take long. First, 2 stages lasted 2-4 days and the last one just 1 day. You’ll both get there!!
  • My lad is still going through at nearly 11 months, I’m sorry, not helpful but we kept giving in and putting him in bed with us and now have made it so much harder for him so my advice is don’t be as soft as me because you’ll only make it harder for him like I have for my lad
  • my first baby was a dreadful sleeper. This time we decided to be firm early. I’m hoping that this won’t last too long. I get anxious about big changes because of past experiences 😱
  • We went through separation anxiety a few months ago and impacted his sleep he would panic when we put him in the cot and I checked some previous posts on the group and Karen had advised to going back to doing Magic Presence as soon as settling to sleep so we went back to doing magic presence for about 5 weeks-  and within a few days it all got sorted and was so worth it. It also really helped his separation anxiety during the day. It really does get better – you got this 🙌🏻
  • We just go through it 😫😫 I was being soft like above picking up and cuddling. Karen advised to go back to doing Magic Presence and I’m happy to report that after a few days of tough love (magic presence, no pickups at all) she cried for maybe 2 minutes before bed last night then put herself to sleep without me having to go in. Day naps have also improved too! Be strong you can get through it xx
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12 Signs That You Have an Overtired Baby

12 Signs That You Have an Overtired Baby

Most parents will agree that taking care of a baby isn’t an easy task. But it is also important to know that it gets more challenging when dealing with an overtired baby.

Overtiredness means that your baby’s body is past the point of being ready for sleep. During this time, your baby’s stress response system is activated. Stress hormones, such as cortisol and adrenaline, flood the bloodstream and make it harder for your baby to calm down and relax. The more overtired your baby becomes, the harder it is for him to fall asleep. 

This can become a pattern and even worsen the condition of your overtired baby over time. However, this should not be the case especially if you’ll be able to recognise the signs of an overtired baby as soon as they manifest. 

Clueless? Here’s an infographic from Nurture Parenting that presents 12 signs that will tell you what to  take note of to know if you have an overtired baby.

12 Telltale Signs of an Overtired Baby

12 Telltale Signs of an Overtired Baby

What Causes Overtiredness in Babies

An overtired baby is someone who is too tired to sleep. Oftentimes, this baby exhibits crankiness or signs of irritability. 

Here are the other factors affecting an overtired baby:

  1. Sleep deprivation
  2. Skipped naps
  3. Late bedtime
  4. Unrestful sleep

12 Signs that You Have an Overtired Baby

#1. Yawns

This is one of the most common signs to check for an overtired baby. Like other people, your baby will yawn when he’s tired. To keep your little one from becoming an overtired baby, it is best to let him go to sleep before the third yawn.

#2. Hand Movements

Another indication that your baby’s tired is when he starts to rub his eyes, eyebrows, or head. Pulling of ears is another common sign among overtired babies. 

TIP: Most of the time, a baby is already sleepy or tired when he reaches for the top of his head and rub the part.

#3. Changes in Facial Expressions

Parents need to observe their babies during their active state as well as when they are already drowsy. Once you notice a change in your baby’s facial expression from happiness to grumpiness, you may already be dealing with signs of an overtired baby.

#4. Blank Stares 

Have you noticed that your baby is not looking at you directly? Your baby has a tendency to stare blankly into the distance if he is tired.

Aside from blank stares, an overtired baby may also show:

    • Difficulty in maintaining eye contact 
    • Closing of eyes when you’re trying to interact

#5. Body Stiffness

Your baby might clench his fists to indicate his tiredness. Your overtired baby may also have tense body movements from his hands and legs.

#6. Latching Difficulty

An overtired baby may also show difficulty in latching and might cry at your breast.

Did you know: In older babies, the act of throwing anything in their hands, such as food and toys, is one sign of overtiredness.

#7. Self-soothing Acts

Does your baby suck his own thumb? Or is he rooting for a pacifier? These are common responses if you happen to ignore the signs of an overtired baby. They resort to self-soothing actions to comfort themselves when they are already tired.

#8. Lack of Interest

Instead of being playful and alert to people, an overtired baby can start to lose interest in their surroundings. This includes rejecting their favorite food or toy.

#9. Clingy Behaviour

Surprised that your baby is suddenly clingier than normal? This is another sign your baby yearns for sleep. It can be displayed in different ways depending on each individual baby. For instance, your overtired baby might cry and beg for you to hold them.

Did you know: Parents aren’t the only one who has to deal with separation anxiety, babies have them too. And when it comes to this, babies often ignore their dads and cling more to their mums.

#10. Autonomic Signals

These refer to signals that become apparent without your baby’s conscious control. All of these examples are signs of an overtired baby:

    1. Sneezing
    2. Sweaty palms
    3. Quick breathe
    4. Hiccups
    5. Blueness around the mouth in infants

#11. Overactivity

You might interpret this as a sign that your baby is ready to play. However, it can also tell that your baby is having sleep difficulties. An overtired baby will become physically active as the awake period wears on.

Awake time guidelines:

    • Newborn (0-2 months old) = 45 minutes to 1 hour
    • 6 months old = 2 hours
    • Toddler (12-36 months old) = 4 to 5 hours

#12. Whimpers and Cries 

An overtired baby would often begin to fuss, whimper, and even cry when they can’t sleep. Babies resort to these acts to communicate what they need and want.

Every infant is unique and so are the signs that indicate you have an overtired baby. As parents, you’d want to make sure that you’re reading your baby’s signals correctly. This way, you will be able to address specific needs and give them quality sleep. 

Need help in getting your overtired baby to sleep? Nurture Parenting offers baby sleep training for parents who are having trouble caring for an  overtired baby. With years of experience teaching many newborns how to self-settle, our Nurture Sleep Program is a tried-and-tested approach that can help your little one sleep through the night. Learn more by contacting us today.

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What an amazing baby sleep turnaround!

What an amazing baby sleep turnaround!

There are several different sleep training methods you can use with most of the age groups. Sleep training is not and should not be a one size fits all. It’s finding the right one for you and your baby. Temperament comes into this decision and choice in a big way. In the Nurture Sleep Program, I guide you through this decision-making process to help you identify the best fit for you and your baby. This is important to help you get the best results in a gentle way.

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Hi Karen,

I just wanted to provide an update on our Ned since we last spoke a few months ago as things have turned around remarkably.
When I spoke to you last we were between a rock and hard place, with Ned being increasingly hard to settle but with weight loss and serve reflux, our sleep training efforts went very badly. Sleep training took a backseat as we worked hard to get his weight up and manage his reflux.  At 4.5 months he took to solids like a dream and was quickly taking 3 good meals a day and we have been consulting your recipe book for ideas.
He is now 6.5 months and has jumped up 15 percentile points and is no longer being fed or rocked to sleep!
Around 1 month ago, he finally showed us signs that he was ready to go to sleep on his own and we tried sleep training again – we suspected he was not enjoying the previous hands-on methods we’ve used, so we used mantra checks instead. On the first night of this, he was asleep after 1 hour and 20 mins of on and off protesting and he then slept for a solid 8 hours. We have never looked back! Since that night he has gone to sleep from awake in his cot within a few minutes (or up to 15 mins if it’s a bad day) for every nap and night sleep (other than an occasional pram and car naps).
I feel like a completely different person to the mother holding her baby to sleep for every nap and feeding to sleep for hours at night, only to wake a few hours later. The difference is astounding.
He generally sleeps from 7 pm to around 5:30 am when I am still offering one night feed due to his low weight and then back to sleep until 7 am. Hopefully, we can wean off this feed and move to a 7 am feed as we’ve gotten as close as a 6 am wake up. His naps aren’t perfect but can often get two 1hr – 1h15min naps in a day, but sometimes his afternoon naps are only one cycle. I’d love to see him increase his afternoon naps, but his morning naps are often his longest and I am hesitant to wake him from those incase he only does a short afternoon nap too. I admit I haven’t done any long resettling efforts for naps, usually only 15-20 mins max which does sometimes result in a resettle. We are mostly just so grateful for the huge improvement in such a short time, and we will now focus on extending his days naps a little and eventually losing the night feed.
Thank you for your resources and for your personal support – they have been very useful and reassuring!
Many thanks
The Ultimate Guide to Understanding Baby Sleep Patterns

The Ultimate Guide to Understanding Baby Sleep Patterns

As a parent, you have probably experienced waking up in the middle of the night to soothe your baby and get him back to sleep. And while you can sleep continuously, you should know that your newborn is likely to have short naps and several waking periods throughout the night.

The intermittent sleep that your baby experiences affects the amount of rest he needs for proper development. Fortunately, there are guidelines that can assist you to make sure he is well-rested.

Curious to know how you can give your newborn the sleep he needs? Read this ultimate guide that will help you understand baby sleep patterns from 0 to 18 months.

 

Everything You Need to Know About Baby Sleep Patterns

 

● Newborn

Newborns are between 0-4 weeks old. During this early age, your baby still doesn’t have a concept of day and night. As a result, your baby’s sleep pattern is still erratic and irregular.

    • Total Amount of Sleep Needed

Your newborn needs a large amount of sleep to support his rapid mental and physical development. Ideally, he requires 16 to 18 hours of sleep.

    • Awake Time in Between Sleep

Your baby spends most of his time in sleep but he cannot rest for more than 2 hours. He should be awake for only 30 minutes to 1 hour before he goes back to sleep again.

    • Number of Naps

Your newborn will wake up several times during the day. He should have 3 to 5 naps everyday with each one lasting from 15 minutes to 2 hours long.

    • Feeding Schedule

Your baby frequently wakes up during the day because he needs to eat. His feeding time should take no more than an hour.

 

During this constant sleep-eat-poop cycle, you should make sure your newborn is properly fed so he can go back to rest as soon as possible.

 

Tip: Do not create a structured sleep schedule as your baby will just sleep whenever he likes it. Instead, focus on teaching him the difference between day and night.

 

● 1 month

Once your baby is 1 month old, he starts to take more naps. You should allow him to do so in order to prevent overtiredness.

    • Total Amount of Sleep Needed

Your baby needs periodic daytime naps which can last between 6 to 7 hours. He’s also able to sleep for slightly longer periods at night from 8 to 9 hours. In total, he requires 14 to 16 hours of sleep.

    • Awake Time in Between Sleep

Like 0-3 week old newborns, your 1 month old baby can still wake up constantly. Ideally, he should be awake for an hour to 1 ½ hours.

    • Number of Naps

Your newborn should typically take 4 to 5 naps everyday.

    • Feeding Schedule

Typically, you should feed your baby after play time. This can last anywhere between 30 minutes to an hour.

 

● 3 months

Three months marks a transition in your baby’s sleep patterns. During this period, he is now able to recognise the difference between day and night. And depending on how fast your newborn develops, he starts to establish a bedtime routine.

    • Total Amount of Sleep Needed

During this period, your baby needs 14 to 16 hours of sleep.

    • Awake Time in Between Sleep

Your baby should be awake for about an hour and a half to 2 hours.

    • Number of Naps

The transition on baby sleep patterns can cause sleep to look different depending on the baby. Some babies can be down to just 2 naps per day.

 

But on average, your baby should take 3 to 4 naps and each should last two hours at most to help him sleep better through the night.

 

Did you know? Sleep regression affects 3 to 4-month-old babies due to the changes in their sleep cycle. As a result, babies often experience waking up at night which can lead to fussing and crying.

 

● 6 months

At this age, your baby can either successfully sleep through the night or revert back to his old routine. He also often experiences a “growth spurt” during this time in which he suddenly gains weight and length.

    • Total Amount of Sleep Needed

Your newborn needs more sleep during this period. Overall, he needs 13 to 15 hours of rest everyday.

    • Awake Time in Between Sleep

If your baby starts waking up constantly, he should only be awake for 2 hours.

    • Number of Naps

Your newborn usually takes 2 naps, each 3 hours long.

    • Feeding Schedule

Your baby should be eating solid foods by this age. He needs to have a varied and balanced diet which includes protein, fat, and carbohydrates. He will also need to eat vegetables and fruits to aid his brain development.

As a result of all this, his milk intake can now be reduced to 3 feeds a day.

 

● 9 months

Your baby now has a distinct sleeping pattern at this age. That’s why you should take note of your baby’s sleep cues and start implementing a consistent bedtime routine.

    • Total Amount of Sleep Needed

At this period, your baby only needs 12 to 14 hours of sleep.

    • Awake Time in Between Sleep

Your infant should be active for 3 to 5 hours throughout the day.

    • Number of Naps

2 naps is all your baby needs, with each one lasting for a maximum of 3 hours.

 

Did you know? According to the National Sleep Foundation, 70-80% of 9-month-old babies can successfully sleep through the night.

 

● 12 months

Your baby’s sleep pattern should now be similar to adults. He can sleep continuously during the night but he may still require a few naps.

    • Total Amount of Sleep Needed

Your 1-year-old baby should typically sleep for 11 to 14 hours.

    • Awake Time in Between Sleep

At this age, your infant spends most of his time playing with his toys and exploring his surroundings. He is a lot more active now, which means he can be awake for 4 to 6 hours.

    • Number of Naps

Your infant might take 1 to 2 naps each day.

 

● 18 months

Your toddler is now able to self-settle at this period. He can also go back to sleep on his own if he’s ever awaken in the middle of the night.

    • Total Amount of Sleep Needed

Your toddler now only needs 10 to 14 hours of sleep.

    • Awake Time in Between Sleep

Depending on the day’s activities, your child can be awake for 5 to 7 hours.

    • Number of Naps

Your toddler is only down to 1 nap that can last for 1 to 2 hours.

 

Essential Dos and Don’ts to Help Your Baby Sleep

Your baby cannot establish sleep and wake cycles on his own. You should create a bedtime routine to help him sleep. In order to guide you, here are some dos and don’ts to build a successful sleep pattern.

 

  • Do Put Your Baby to Sleep on His Back

Babies who sleep on their stomach can experience problems in breathing because their lungs get less oxygen.

To keep him safe, you should put your baby to sleep on his back. You also decrease the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) by letting him rest in this position.

  • Don’t Let Your Baby Fall Asleep in Your Arms

Avoid letting your baby fall asleep in your arms as this can become a bad habit. Your baby may show clingy behaviour and expect you to help him fall asleep. This can hinder him from learning how to sleep on his own.

  • Do Set Up a Comfortable Crib for Your Baby

Create a comfortable environment for your child to help him fall asleep. You should add soft pillows and a snug blanket in his crib to make it more inviting to sleep in. With a cozy crib, your baby can also get better quality rest.

  • Don’t Use the Crib for Playtime

Avoid putting toys in the crib to prevent overactivity. By doing this, you can establish to your baby that his crib is a place to sleep.

  • Do Turn Off Light

Your baby’s wake-sleep cycle can be affected by light. You should keep the lighting dim, or completely turn it off during bedtime to help him fall asleep faster.

  • Do Not Put Distractions in His Room

You should not put distractions, such as computers and TV in his room. These things can prevent your baby from sleeping on time as they emit light.

  • Do Accept That Your Baby Will Wake Up at Night

You should realize that your baby will wake up in the middle of the night because of his short sleep cycle. You should only intervene when he can’t go back to sleep on his own.

  • Don’t Panic When Your Baby Suddenly Cries

It’s every parent’s instincts but you should avoid rushing in your baby when he makes a sound. Give him a chance to return back to sleep on his own.

 

Babies sleep differently from adults. It’s important to understand distinct baby sleep patterns in order to build a healthy and successful bedtime routine. Ultimately, this can help your baby fall asleep quickly.

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Tried and Tested Lullabies for Overtired Babies

Tried and Tested Lullabies for Overtired Babies

Parents are all too familiar with every technique in the book to calm down overtired babies. But sometimes, swaying your baby back and forth simply won’t cut it. When your baby is showing signs of restlessness and fussing around just minutes before bedtime, lullabies are one of the most effective self-soothing skills in your parent arsenal.

Between picking up a book and singing a little tune, a study from the Official Journal of International Congress of Infant Study shows that babies respond better to singing lullabies rather than normal speech when it comes to distressing a baby. So, with a child at such a delicate and responsive age, what are the proven effective lullabies to calm down a restless child? Here are some good ones.

Proven Effective Lullabies for Overtired Babies

Common Tongue Lullabies

The study conducted on lullabies shows that even though babies were able to calm down with songs in a language foreign to them, the ones sang in their native tongue resulted in a better response because of its familiarity. Moreover, it is no secret that songs can play a role in language learning. So, singing to a baby in his or her common tongue can help to enhance their oral comprehension.

Good Classic Lullabies

The classics such as “Rock-a-bye Baby”, “Humpty Dumpty”, “Three Blind Mice” and “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star” are some of the first lullabies mums everywhere think of whenever the baby wakes up fussy. Well, guess what? These old but gold little ditties never run out of style. These are the songs we all know by heart for a good reason. The words are simple and aren’t hard to forget. And yes, they may be repetitive in both melody and beat, but that’s exactly the point! The repetition creates a pattern in which the baby can associate bedtime with positive things. Therefore, whenever your baby hears the song, their mind will associate it with bedtime, helping them sleep faster.

Contemporary-Turned-Baby-Soothing Lullabies

If you’d rather try something more meaningful than a song about stars or a baby cradled on a treetop, Riley Children’s Health recommends soothing and calming music to keep your baby at ease. After all, this intimate moment of singing to your child is another gateway to connection, so you can pick a special song that you’d love your baby to hear. You would need to make sure that the song is relaxing, simple and has a child-friendly message, even though they’re at the age when they can’t quite fully understand the lyrics. If you can’t seem to pick one, this lullaby playlist by kinderling.com compiles Australia’s favourite songs mums love to sing before bedtime.

It is also important to note is that singing to your baby in person rather than playing a soundtrack produces much better effects. Research shows that singing the lullaby yourself can help soothe infants since they hear their mum’s voices rather than a studio version of the same lullaby. However, if you are not the best singer in the world, no need to panic, since singing out of tune has no effects on the infants. So, don’t give into stage fright in front of your own child. As far as they know, you’re the best singer they’ve heard so far!

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Healing The Inner Child

Healing The Inner Child

Reflecting on Childhood

Before you even think about having a baby you will start to reflect on your own childhood. You will find yourself examining the ways in which your parents raised you. There may have been ways you were were parented which are in direct conflict with your own desire to raise a child. Some of these thoughts and decisions are brought about by the concious mind. These are thoughts and experiences which we readily recall and sit not far from the surface.

The Subconcious

What is far more interesting and far more important is the experiences and emotions which you have buried deep within your subconcious. This is your inner child. Your inner child is the reservoir of all your childhood exerpriences, positive and negative. To become a ‘whole’ parent it is really important to focus on your inner child and give healing to her. Otherwise parenting has this nasty habit of unleashing the Jack in the Box to come and get you. The Jack in the Box is an analogy for all your hurts and disappointments as a child.

Emotional Memory

Our own babies and children can stimulate our own childhood memories extremely powerfully. Our closeness to them can trigger many of the experiences we felt as a child. What our children do is rekindle the dormant emotional memory we had in childhood. It can be triggered by any intense emotion that reminds us of that or similar event. They cause old emotions in our subconcious to waft up into our conciousness. Parents often make choices based on emotional memories. It is so important to be in touch with your emotions and to question where these thoughts and feelings are coming from.

Birth Trauma

At the birth of your own child a parent may feel the emotional memory of their own birth trauma. The emotional memories have been pushed towards the surface because of the heightened sensations. This can result in you reliving your own birth trauma. This is why dads can faint at delivery.

Labour and Delivery

During labour and delivery the Jack in the Box can come out as the mum experiences another level of pain and a feeling of being out of control. Her inner child is feeling another level of pain sending her to another plane of existence. In order to labour effectively she needs to control her thoughts and her mind. Once the mum starts to panic, feeling an overwhelming sense of loss of control she can hit trouble and an obstructed labour. As a midwife I can spot this happening a mile off. The mums who have been subjected to rape or childhood abuse, in particular childhood sexual abuse are more likely to struggle with their inner child and emotional memory. Any pain or trauma will bring those extremely raw emotions they’ve tried to bury rushing to the surface. It can feel raw, visceral and totally overwhelming.

Postnatal Distress

In my outreach days as a Maternal & Child Health Nurse I recall being called out to a mum who was 10 days postnatal. Dad was struggling to manage her and was extremely concerned for her welfare. On arriving at her inner city Melbourne home he led me to her bedroom. She lay on her bed curled up in a fetal position, whimpering and sobbing like a hurt little child. The birth and subsequent exhaustion of those early postnatal days had taken a very heavy toll. She couldn’t move off the bed, she was stuck and almost catatonic and felt suicidal. When I got to the crux of the problem she disclosed that she had been sexually abused by her brother. The pain of the delivery and the subsequent unsettled behaviour of a newborn had brought all these feelings back to the surface. This new baby was a girl and she said she felt out of control as she was frightened about how she was going to protect her little girl when her own mother had failed to protect her. She really was in total overwhelm and her inner child was like a raw scab that was getting picked and picked at till it was raw and bleeding. Fortunately her husband was totally amazing and knew that she needed professional help so had called me.

Mother and Baby Unit

Luckily in Victoria I had access to help and support from the mother and baby units that were located in and around Melbourne. These units allowed the mum to stay and bond with her baby whilst under the care of psychologists and psychiatrists. Every state and territory in Australia should have them but unfortunately this is not the case. The mum and her baby were admitted that very day and we managed to keep her safe and allow her a safe and supportive space to get herself better once again.

This is just an example of what can happen if a mother has a damaged inner child. This is why counselling pre pregnancy can make a huge difference to postnatal outcomes. I’d like to think antenatal care included this as a preventative and positive part of the service and then health care providers can support these mums so much better.

Healing the Inner Child is essential and needs raising as a priority otherwise we are potentially leaving the next generation to disadvantage and negative outcomes. We need to hold and support the mum so she can hold her child.

Motherhood and the loss of self

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